Without Measure (WOM) 365

April 21, 2014

The Journey to Finding Words to Fit

Filed under: Uncategorized — laurelnymph @ 11:16 pm

How do I write a story without the words to write it? How do I tell my story if the words and even the concepts elude me? This is my life. So many of the root causes of the troubles I have seen have been pre-verbal or of such an extreme and, hopefully, rare nature that I do find it hard to grasp what I have been living. It is especially difficult to get help for specific troubles, such as health issues, if there are no words along with no recognition of the symptoms presented because of the rare or deliberately ignored types of problems I faced. Then I discovered I was not so extremely rare after all. I began to meet and hear about others who had similar stories to various parts of my story. I began a decades’ long journey to discover what was going on for me and to heal. It has been and continues to be a steep learning curve with a long process of unraveling the layers in my life, my body, and my psyche.

And, yes, somehow my size was always put as the frontispiece of my woes – either through the sheer cruelty meted out to me from what felt like everywhere from as early as I can remember or through the deliberate neglect or resistance to giving me the help I desperately needed from the beginning, especially when that assistance was available somewhere. Was my size the real issue or only the cover issue for something harder to define? Perhaps it is all this and more. There is nothing quite like prejudice informing those who think they know it all. The trouble was, I did not know better and usually believed them on too many levels. Why? It was mostly because my problems started too young for me to know any differently AND because I was and continue to be fat. Apparently when a person is fat, all troubles, all problems, and all the many types of hatreds spewed upon the fat person are the fat person’s fault. Hence, the fat person does not deserve good treatment of any kind.

Of course, this is utter nonsense parading as societal wisdom. Another name for it is bigotry. I had learned to self-impose this mindset deeply and to accept mistreatment. So, I have had to un-learn most of what I thought I knew. This was not a one-time effort either. The process of finding those deeply buried and beyond normal knowing facts and beliefs was difficult in and of itself. There was much personal research and work involved, but the work did begin to become more enjoyable and less tedious as I grew in wisdom, knowledge, self- and other-acceptance. The process is still on-going and will most likely be lifelong.

Some of the new areas opened to me to search for answers to many of my life and health problems included, but were limited to, abuse and PTSD/cPTSD issues, autism spectrum issues, RAD (Rare Adipose Disease) issues, as well as learning about societal privilege and bigotry issues. All of this and more I will begin to address in future blog posts. Meanwhile, the learning to put words to experiences continues.

I will put the size acceptance parts of my journey here with our ISAA (International Size Acceptance Association) blog and the rest on my own personal blogs and pages. I do hope you are along for the journey with your own as well.

Thank you.
Daphne Yvonne Bradshaw

© 2014, Daphne Yvonne Bradshaw. All rights reserved.
Published in conjunction with my own blog.


February 5, 2008

“It’s Dead, Jim!”

Filed under: ISAA,self esteem,size acceptance,Uncategorized — directisaa @ 5:25 pm

“It’s dead on arrival at my desk.”
– Mississippi House Public Health and Human Services Committee Chairman Steve Holland (D – Plantersville) concerning Mississippi House Bill 282

ISAA would like to thank all of you for your participation in this activism effort. The Mississippi lawmakers heard you loud and clear! Ding, dong, the bill is dead!

ISAA would also like to thank NAAFA and COFTA for their participation in bringing attention to this ill-advised bill.

February 2, 2008

Mississippi HOUSE BILL NO. 282: No Fat Person May Dine Here

Filed under: ISAA,size acceptance,Uncategorized — laurelnymph @ 5:15 pm

Mississippi House Bill 282, full text, was introduced in the 2008 Mississippi legislative session on Friday by Representative W.T. Mayhall, Jr., a retired pharmaceutical salesman with DuPont-Merk. Its co-authors are Bobby Shows, a businessman, and John Read, a pharmacist.

This proposed bill would make discrimination and segregation based on a person’s body size and composition legal in the state of Mississippi and needs to be addressed by any and all Americans who value their own liberties and rights.

Of course, whenever there is a contact made with a legislator or any other public official, politeness is very important to the message. 

As a disclaimer, neither ISAA nor I are advocating hate mail, vandalism, or anything else illegal or ethically questionable in posting this info. Again, please be polite, informative, and as brief as possible when contacting these honorable, albeit misguided in this proposed bill, legislators. Thank you.

So, the contact information is as follows:

Lead Author: Representative W. T. Mayhall, Jr. (R)
P. O. Box 1018
Jackson, MS 39215

Co-Author: Representative Bobby Shows (D)
P. O. Box 1018
Jackson, MS 39215

Co-Author: Representative John Read (R)
P. O. Box 1018
Jackson, MS 39215

 My personal email to these honorable legislators:

Mississippi HB 282

Please reconsider and withdraw the Mississippi House Bill 282 (http://billstatus. ls.state. ms.us/2008/ pdf/history/ HB/HB0282. xml), authored by Representative W. T. Mayhall, Jr. of District 40 and co-authored by Representative Bobby Shows and Representative John Read, which is “an act to prohibit certain food establishments from serving food to any person who is obese.” This bill is nothing less than the proposed segregation of people according to the size and composition of their bodies and based on a flawed measuring device, the BMI, and false reasoning based on assumptions, failed/ incomplete/ corrupted/ disproven supposed research if citizen’s health, medical research, or even balancing budgets are blamed for this proposal. This proposed legal discrimination against people based on fat phobia and hatred would not only harm those deemed of legal and enforcable arbitrarily-set dimensions but would also harm businesses and, ultimately, your state budget and reputation.
Thank you.
Ms. Daphne Bradshaw

May 23, 2007

Raped Fat Females Should Be “Glad of Attention”? I Don’t Think So!

Filed under: Uncategorized — laurelnymph @ 10:15 am

 This is fat bigotry, misogyny, and violence against women/vicitms at its most blatant. Words fail me on this one. It is just too horrifically outrageous and imflamatory. Read for yourself. A snippet of the article is here–

Lawyer: ‘Rape’ girl should be ‘glad of attention’


Thursday, May 17, 2007

A barrister provoked outrage yesterday by claiming that the victim of an alleged gang rape was so fat she would have been ‘glad of the attention’.

Sheilagh Davies, defending one of three boys accused of raping two girls, said the 16-year-old girl had ‘slimmed down a lot’ since the alleged attack.

She told Inner London Crown Court: ‘She was 12st 6lb – not quite the swan she may turn into. She may well have been glad of the attention….

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