This is something I have written after I saw Oprah on TV selling her style of HAES to the world:
I am glad to see that 2009 is the year of healthy living, the year to rediscover our bodies and our self worth, and learn to be active and lead a healthy life style.
This is all good, if it were not for the never ending message to lose weight and measure our achievement by the number of pounds lost or the our new thinner selves.
Glamorizing thinness is harmful, it has not only failed for decades, but obesity is on the rise due to the change in metabolism and eating disorders these methods cause.
This is the reason why the promoters of weight loss are borrowing our messages of size acceptance and health at every size, to sell their diets and keep women and teens especially, in the vicious circle of yo yo dieting and body loathing.
My idea of caring and loving my body is unconditional, it has no strings attached. I will love and care for my health no matter what weight i am at or if i lose pounds or inches as a result of a healthy life style or not.
I eat healthy and move my body for health and only for health, not to lose pounds or look thinner.
My self worth is not measured by the number on the scale or a dress size, I am who I am at any size.
I am worthy of respect love and dignity now as I am, it should not be less worthy when fat and more worthy when thin.
My self worth is not based on the scale or the tape measure, these statistics are part of me but not the whole of me, and when they fluctuate they do not affect who i am as a human being.
Caring for my health is a pleasurable duty I have towards my best friend, my child and the home of my soul my beautiful body.
Without it, I would not be able to love , feel pleasure, walk, run, laugh and dance, be happy or sad , work and play, be creative , be productive, be a lover and a friend, be a mother, a father or a child, without this body I do not exist.
For many years you made me hate it, loath it, despise it, torture it, stuff it, gorge it, punish it, insult it, starve it, and beat it.
You are fat an ugly you said, you should be ashamed of your body, who would want you when you are looking like this, you are disgusting, you are obese, lardy, horrible and flabby.
You have let yourself go you said, do something about it you lazy cow.
It is easy to lose weight and look great, just stop eating, stop stuffing your face with sweets and junk food and get off your fat behind and move….
You only have yourself to blame, you have no will power, you are disgusting.
No wonder obesity is on the rise, the reverse psychology meant to so called motivate us fatties to lose weight, resulted in blood tears and death.
The get healthy message you have stolen from us, will not work for you, given your history of torture and abuse.
– Fatima Parker