Without Measure (WOM) 365

January 7, 2009

The True Meaning Of Healthy Living

Filed under: fitness,health,ISAA,self esteem,size acceptance — tima888 @ 5:40 pm

This is something I have written after I saw Oprah on TV selling her style of HAES to the world:

I am glad to see that 2009 is the year of healthy living, the year to rediscover our bodies and our self worth, and learn to be active and lead a healthy life style.

This is all good, if it were not for the never ending message to lose weight and measure our achievement by the number of pounds lost or the our new thinner selves.

Glamorizing thinness is harmful, it has not only failed for decades, but obesity is on the rise due to the change in metabolism and eating disorders  these methods cause.

This is the reason why the promoters of weight loss are borrowing our messages of size acceptance and health at every size, to sell their diets and keep  women and teens especially, in the vicious circle of yo yo dieting and body loathing.

My idea of caring and loving my body is unconditional, it has no strings attached. I will love and care for my health no matter what weight i am at or if i lose pounds or inches as a result of a healthy life style or not.

I eat healthy and move my body for health and only for health, not to lose pounds or look thinner.

My self worth is not measured by the number on the scale or a dress size, I am who I am at any size.

I am worthy of respect love and dignity now as I am, it should not be less worthy when fat and more worthy when thin.

My self worth is not based on the scale or the tape measure, these statistics are part of me but not the whole of me, and when they fluctuate they do not affect who i am as a human being.

Caring for my health is a pleasurable duty I have towards my best friend, my child and the home of my soul my beautiful body.

Without it, I would not be able to love , feel pleasure, walk, run, laugh and dance, be happy or sad , work and play, be creative , be productive, be a lover and a friend, be a mother, a father or a child, without this body I do not exist.

For many years you made me hate it, loath it, despise it, torture it, stuff it, gorge it, punish it, insult it, starve it, and beat it.

You are fat an ugly you said, you should be ashamed of your body, who would want you when you are looking like this, you are disgusting, you are obese, lardy, horrible and flabby.

You have let yourself go you said, do something about it you lazy cow.

It is easy to lose weight and look great,  just stop eating, stop stuffing your face with sweets and junk food and get off your fat behind and move….

You only have yourself to blame, you have no will power, you are  disgusting.

No wonder obesity is on the rise, the reverse psychology meant to so called  motivate us fatties to lose weight, resulted in blood tears and death.

The get healthy message you have stolen from us, will not work for you, given your history of torture and abuse.

– Fatima Parker



  1. You have put into words what has been in my mind and heart for many years. It’s only recently that I have learned to accept (and love) myself the size I am. And once I let go of the self-guilt and self-hatred inflicted on me by others, I found peace. I’m now taking care of myself for my benefit, not because some doctor ordered me to, not because there are those that think I’m a fat slob. And because I’m happier, my family thinks I’ve lost weight because I “look better” LOL Whether I ever do or not no longer matters. What matters is self-acceptance and self-worth. I’m printing out your article and hanging it up.

    Comment by Irene — January 8, 2009 @ 1:25 am | Reply

  2. Excellent writing in all areas of health and self-acceptance, and I have a good continental reading all of you writing successful in defending the goals of the indigo man

    Comment by rafid — January 8, 2009 @ 4:27 pm | Reply

  3. It didn’t seem that Oprah was trying to get healthy. She was doing exercise that was unpleasant and eating boring food. She shouldn’t live that way. Exercise should be fun. It should be done at a level that is comfortable. I bike a pace of 10 to 12 miles an hour. I jog fast enough that it’s challenging but not at all painful in any way.

    Oprah’s video on her website made it seem like she was suggesting that cardio was only useful if done at a level that was uncomfortable for her. I do lots of exercise. Not to lose weight, but because it’s fun.

    Comment by Lillian Mitchell — January 8, 2009 @ 9:44 pm | Reply

  4. Thank you Irene, Rafid and Lillian for your kind words and support.
    I am happy for you Irene and Lillian for changing your life style, and looking after your health, for your well being and not for weight loss, keep it up, your family can now see your new healthy, confident selves, shining from within and illuminating you, with the true beauty that you both are.
    Good luck

    Comment by Fatima Parker — January 10, 2009 @ 9:15 pm | Reply

  5. Congratulations Fatima, you’ve said it so well… It’s such a deranged society, assigning worth to us (mostly women) according to the body we have…

    Comment by Absinthe — February 23, 2009 @ 8:27 pm | Reply

  6. Great story. I look forward to more information

    Curtis Maybin

    Comment by Curtis Maybin — January 2, 2010 @ 5:24 am | Reply

  7. An impressive share! I have just forwarded this onto a co-worker who has been doing a little research on this.
    And he in fact ordered me lunch because I found it for him.

    .. lol. So let me reword this…. Thanks for the meal!
    ! But yeah, thanx for spending some time to discuss this topic here on your
    web page.

    Comment by daily nutritional requirements — October 12, 2012 @ 2:48 pm | Reply

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